4 Parenting Tips: How to Overcome Blame, From Special Education Personnel

Are you the parent of a child with autism that hasthe child'sbehavioral difficulty is at school.
been blamed foryour child's behavioral difficulties?Tip 2: Try and figure out what your child is telling you
Have you been told by specialeducation personnel thatby theirbehavior; perhaps the work is too hard, they
your child's learning disability ordifficulty is your fault?are not receivingappropriate instruction. Try and figure
This article will discuss a study of schoolpsychologistsout the ABC's of Behavior; Astands for antecedent
about blame for children's learning difficulties. Andalso,(what was happening before the behavior), Bstands
give you tips,on how to overcome the blame, placedfor Behavior (what was the specific behavior), and C
by somedisability educators.stands fortheConsequence (what did the child get out
Several years ago, I heard about a study whereof the behavior). Byfocusing on the behavior, and not
school psychologistswere asked who they blamed,the blame you will help your child.
when a child had learning difficulties.Tip 3: If your child is struggling with academics due to a
The basic outcome of the study showed that 100% oflearningdisability; make sure that they are receiving
the psychologiststhat were surveyed, placed theresearch basedinstruction, which is required by No
blame on the child or the parents. Notone schoolChild Left Behind (NCLB).
psychologist blamed the school district,Children with learning disabilities need a reading
teacher,inappropriate curriculum, lack of resources, orprogram with fiveprinciples: Simultaneous multi sensory,
inadequateinstruction, for children's learning difficulties.systematic and cumulative,direct interaction, diagnostic
Years ago, I hearda school psychologist blame ateaching, and analytic instruction.
mother for her daughter's learningdisability, since then ICheck out for more information.
have heard it several times.Tip 4: Tell the special education person, that your child
While the study did not include blame for behavioralhas theright to a free appropriate public education, and
difficulties, ithas been my experience that schoolyou will be holdingthem accountable for that. Be
personnel often blame parents forchildrens schoolhonest, and bring up any school relatedreasons that
behavioral issues. Parents must overcome bothyou believe your child is having academic difficulty,
typesof blame, so that they can advocate for anorbehavioral difficulty. Many schools continue using
appropriate education, fortheir child.outdatedcurriculums that do not work, which can
Tip 1: If a school person tells you that your child'scause lack of academicprogress and frustration in
behavior, isbecause of something that is going on atsome children.
home, stand up to them. Tellthe person that you do notYou can overcome the blame that some disability
believe that this is true. If your childhas autism, theyeducators try andplace on your or your child. Continue
may have a lot of behavioral difficulties due totheirto focus on your child, andtheir needs, and this will help
disability. Most families are not perfect, but most timesyou overcome the blame. Your child isdepending on
do notcause a child's behavioral difficulty; especially ifyou!