| Most people tend to be compassionate. Perhaps it is a | | | | training was required. |
| human evolutionary trait, or simply the manner in which | | | | Becoming an Effective Counsellor |
| we have been trained to understand and act upon our | | | | According to Meier & Davis (1997) "in no other |
| emotions. Or it could stem from the need to help | | | | profession does the personality and behavior of the |
| others in order to achieve a sense of belonging. In | | | | professional make such difference as it does in |
| modern society - represented by large conglomerates | | | | counseling. Beginning counselors need to work at |
| of human beings living collectively - people have daily | | | | increasing their self awareness as well as their |
| opportunities to help others, and also varied motives to | | | | knowledge of counseling procedures. Your willingness |
| do so. These motives can be a response to social | | | | to be open to supervision, to accept clients' failures and |
| pressure, redemption, responsibility or simply the | | | | criticisms, to participate in counseling yourself when |
| adrenalin rush of helping someone. Does that sound | | | | appropriate, and to acknowledge your limits will |
| familiar? Many individuals become professional | | | | contribute to your eventual success and satisfaction". |
| counsellors with that foundation - the determination to | | | | Acknowledging Values |
| help others. But is that enough? | | | | The client-counsellor relationship is fundamentally a |
| A Differential Support | | | | relationship between two human beings. Obviously |
| There is a strong ethical component in any | | | | there are two different roles in the relationship but both |
| health-related profession, particularly the ones which | | | | counsellor and client have a history of experiences |
| deal directly with consumers - in the case of | | | | that have shaped who they are, how they view the |
| counselling, the client. One of the most prominent | | | | world and what are their values. |
| aspects of becoming a professional counsellor lies in | | | | An effective client-counsellor relationship does not |
| understanding the ethical guidelines of the profession, | | | | ignore the "human" side of the professional. To |
| which in turn requires prospective counsellors to be | | | | establish trust, a client needs to sense that the |
| able to differentiate between 'friendly advice' and | | | | counsellor is genuine and sincere in their |
| professional assistance. This is a challenging | | | | communications. But when a counsellor begins to |
| proficiency as it not only involves the process of | | | | suspect their own biases, conflicting values or |
| learning which is intrinsic to any professional | | | | judgements are influencing their work with a client, it is |
| development (or training), but also remodelling the | | | | critical that they reflect upon this behaviour and seek |
| manner in which people naturally respond to a call for | | | | to rectify it. |
| help: emotional and inevitably subjective feedback. | | | | Critically reflecting in supervision, through journaling or |
| In order to cater for those needs, counsellor training | | | | personal inner work is required to establish an |
| involves a great deal of ethical background theory and | | | | appropriate plan of action. |
| practice which aims to develop the objective 'eye' - a | | | | Recognising Limitations |
| demanded skill for counselling sessions. Such a | | | | It is easy for inexperienced counsellors to fall into the |
| methodical approach to interpreting human behaviour | | | | trap of feeling solely responsible for their client's |
| and individual needs is rooted in the development of | | | | progress. Counsellors do not possess a magic wand |
| early behavioural sciences. | | | | to solve all of life's problems and it is important to |
| Method in Counselling | | | | remember that ultimately it is the client that makes |
| What is 'method'? Method (from Greek methodos or | | | | choices in their own life. |
| met hodos meaning "way across") is a word which | | | | Counsellors can assist clients to think through options, |
| entered English in 1541 via French and Latin, and is | | | | explore motivators and hurdles, set goals, formulate |
| defined as 'a series of steps taken to complete a | | | | plans of action and so on. A client, however, must |
| certain task or to reach a certain objective'. The | | | | assume the responsibility for taking actions in order to |
| methodical approach was induced by the need to | | | | accomplish progress in his/her life. |
| share common guidelines in the observation and | | | | There are many moments in the counselling |
| analysis of events, laying grounds for the advent of | | | | relationship in which it is important to recognise the |
| the scientific method - the central component of any | | | | limitations of counselling. When progress seems "stuck", |
| modern science. | | | | some of the best plans involve tolerating ambiguity, |
| In the 19th century, the scientific method served to | | | | sharing responsibility with the client, re-establishing the |
| 'unleash' psychology from its bonds with philosophy | | | | role of the counsellor and/or sharing information with a |
| and medicine - and the consequence was the advent | | | | supervisor. |
| of the original behavioural science. Counselling moved | | | | Drawing the Line |
| away from psychology and Freudian psychoanalysis in | | | | Maintaining a critical perspective towards the |
| the early 1950s with the intent of enhancing the | | | | counsellor-client relationship is essential in order to avoid |
| relationship between counsellor and client. The helping | | | | emotional burnout, misjudgement and unproductive |
| nature of the counselling approach set the standards | | | | distribution of power. "A common mistake for |
| for this newly adopted discipline - and increased focus | | | | beginners is to worry too much about clients. There is |
| was placed in nurturing the relationship with the client, | | | | a danger of incorporating clients' neuroses into our |
| encouraging client's responsiveness, and developing a | | | | own personality. We lose sleep wondering what |
| bond which would lay grounds for the client's | | | | decisions they are making. We sometimes identify so |
| progressive development. | | | | closely with clients that we lose our own sense of |
| From that point, the last group (the ones that derive | | | | identity and assume their identity. Empathy becomes |
| the adrenalin rush from helping people) was deemed | | | | distorted and militates against a therapeutic |
| to undertake a series of particular events in order to | | | | intervention" (Corey 2001). |
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