How Past Experiences Affect your Life

Sociologist Herbert Mead developed a theory knownindividual's socialization abilities. When an individual is an
as social behaviorism, which helped explained whyinfant they have no control and usually rely on their
past social experiences help form an individuals'parents and family members to help nurture them.
personality. Mead did not believe that personality wasThrough family they learn several of communication
developed by drives or biologically, but more on termstechniques such as trust, culture, and beliefs. Don't get
socially. He stated that the self only developed whenme wrong, not all learning comes solely from family;
people interact with one another. Without thethey can come from the environment as well because
interaction of other people an individual can't develop ain a lot of cultures they use the environment to help
personality. An example of this is if a child is left in totalraise a child. I guess the saying is true in which it takes
isolation for a long period of time then they don'ta "village to raise a child." It may not be surprising to
mature both physically or mentally.you that different social classes tend to raise their
Next, social experience is crucial, and this includes thechildren differently.
exchange of symbols. Only people attach meanings toAn interesting survey that happened in the United
words and symbols. If you tell a dog to sit and it obeysStates compared what a lower class family would
then you may give it a snack. However, this doesn'twant in a child compared to that of an upper class
mean it knows why to sit down, but it does so to getfamily. A lower class family would usually favor
food. You can tell a dog to sit for numerous ofobedience and conformity while an upper class family
reasons such as wanting to impress your friends, or towould tend to favor creativity and good judgment
calm it down because it is running all over the place.(NORS, 2003). Have you ever wondered why? Well
Also, Mead noted that understanding individualthe reason is lower class workers tend to have jobs
intentions is critical. This will help us to analyze how anthat they must be very obedient in and are highly
individual will respond even before we act. Forsupervised. Subconsciously they are gearing their
example, when we're driving we all anticipate whatchildren towards that route and will even use physical
others may do because of experience. If an individualpunishment to achieve it. In upper class workers they
behinds you is speeding up rather quickly, then you cantend to have jobs that inspire individuality and creativity
assume that they are about to switch lanes, or youwhich is very similar to the traits they would like to
can assume that they are in a rush and need to gethave in their children.
somewhere quickly. Mead refers to this as takingSchool also has a large effect on an individual's
another individual's role.personalities. If you think about it you spend a huge
Another important theory that is related to socialchunk of time each day at school. It's also interesting to
behaviorism is the looking-glass self. This is basically likenote that children tend to play with people as the
mirroring what we think others think of us. If we thinksame race and gender, and that boys are more
others view you as being "good looking," then you willphysical and aggressive while girls are more well
see yourself as being good looking, or if you thinkbehaved. Boys also tend to find abstract activities
people think that you are fat then you will have thatmore interesting like video games and girls tend to be
image of yourself. People take the roles of othermore artistic. The same thing follows when they get to
people during development. Infants have very littlecollege because boys tend to major in physical
knowledge so they tend to mimic others. Children oftensciences, and computing while girls usually major in
have creative minds and take on roles of otherhumanities and arts. In school is where children
significant others or people such as parents that havediscover peer groups or individual that has similar
a special importance in their social development. Forinterest as themselves.
example, children will play house in which someone willPeople tend o indemnify more with their peer groups
take the role of a mother while another take that of aand can have conversations about things they
father. As they age children will learn to take variousunderstand like clothes, music, and style. Peer groups
roles and adjust to their surroundings. As we continueare a way for individuals to escape adult supervision,
to age we will continue to see changes in our socialand people are usually more out spoken in peer
life.groups. During the adolescent years people tend to
There are a lot of critics of Mead's theories and someidentify more with their peer groups because they
claim that he focus too much on the society inidentify themselves as an adult and that is also a time
developing an individual's behavior. Another sociologistin which parents are concerned about who their
Erik H. Erikson stated that unlike Freud who believedchildren hang around because they know that who
that personality was pretty much set in stone in thethey hang around influence their behavior deeply.
first couple of years of an individual's life, thatDuring these years the mass media heavily affects
personality changes in stages and occurs all the wayindividuals as well. Studies have showed that television
up to death. His theory is not all that accurate as well,have made people more passive and lessoned their
because people experience changes in differentcreativity. In the United States we spend he most time
orders and time. Through all of the disagreements,watching television and own the most T.V sets per
sociologists generally agree on this main idea, and thathousehold.
is that the family has the greatest impact on an