Allow Natural Death

Choosing the three words "Allow Natural Death" overThis is one of the many things that makes me shudder
"Do Not Resuscitate", the other three words usedwhen I think about the loss of dignity people
when making the decision to provide no resuscitationexperience in the hospital, especially in end-of-life
to keep someone alive, can make such a profound(thank goodness for hospice where dignity is
difference in the lives and hearts of grieving families.maintained). It is also one of the many reasons why I
There is a movement rising in health care systemswas so insistent that my parents die at home (which
throughout the country to institute this new terminology.they wanted for themselves) if the conditions were
These medical orders to "Do Not Resuscitate" writtenright in that there was no need for ventilator or other
as a prescription by a physician in a patient's chart, areequipment.
usually given at a time when the patient has noFive years ago this week my mother, who was
chance of survival with medical means or following anhospitalized at was University of Penn for her kidney
'advance directive' that the patient wrote him/herself.cancer, was told by her physicians she had very little
One of the more difficult duties I had as a nursetime left to live. The topic of "Do Not Resuscitate"
working in a hospital was talking to families about thedidn't even come up. Without a second thought we
decision to "DNR", or "Do Not Resuscitate", their sickcalled Samaritan Hospice in Marlton New Jersey and
and dying loved one.brought her home to "Allow a Natural Death" in the
I always thought the expression "Do Not Resuscitate"comfort of her home surrounded by her loved ones.
sounded cold and commanding. In discussions with theWe believed this helped to create conditions to allow a
families it was evident to me that they took this tonatural death...comfortably and peacefully. And she did
mean "do not keep my loved one alive", and of coursehave one weeks later. The beautiful thing was that as
they wanted to keep their loved one alive!a family we always used natural healing methods in
"Do Not Resuscitate" sounds withholding and like aour home, and just as we used them for living a good
'take-away'.life, we also used them for dying a good death (for
I'm so glad to hear that "Allow Natural Death" will takeboth of my parents).
its place.Seven years ago after my father died a peaceful
"Allowing" is not a command, it sounds like andeath at home, I took this concept and I created
appreciation of an organic inevitable process. Let me"Peaceful Passages: Complementary Therapies in End
rant for a bit here..........of Life Care" to create awareness of our ability to use
So my experiences of the DNR's in the hospitalwonderful holistic modalities for comfort and care,
were...once the families had to make the gut-wrenchinginvolvement of family members, and to facilitate a
decision, they then had to put their signature on papernatural and peaceful death.
stating that command - which carries some emotionalI also started a scholarship fund to help pay for
weight in and of itself. And to top it off, when theeducation for people who want to study holistic
decision was made and the papers signed, then it wasmodalities like energy healing, aromatherapy, massage,
advertised! The letters "DNR" were posted all over thereflexology if they are going to use it in end of life
place...on the walls...near the patient's bed...on the doorssettings or situations. I would like to share this aspect
going into the room...and sometimes even written onof my work with you.
the patients clothing or skin!