| The parenting methods of a mother and a father | | | | well, but she had hoped that I would be less like her |
| share a lot of similarities as well as differences. Each | | | | and more like the little girl she wished she had been. It |
| set of parents is unique and differ in personalities and | | | | was not easy for her to transgress into role of mother |
| beliefs. However, their common goal seems to be the | | | | and wife after playing the role of "just one of the |
| same concerning their children. Both my mother and | | | | guys" for so long. She often felt like she was a |
| father held the best intentions for me in their parenting | | | | completely different person pretending to be as she |
| methods even if they express most of them in very | | | | thought she should. Whereas my dad didn't worry, |
| different ways. For example, my mother was very | | | | much about the fact that I enjoyed sports and boy like |
| nurturing, but my father was strict, disciplinary and | | | | things. He would often tease me about how that a girl |
| focused on providing the means. My mother was quick | | | | could not do some things as well as a boy, just so that |
| to protect me from the world and my father's goal | | | | I would set out to prove him wrong. He felt that I would |
| was to prepare me for life beyond my mother's wing. | | | | surely find a common ground, a sense of myself as |
| My father joked a lot and liked to play games or tease | | | | everyone dose in his or her own journey through life. |
| me about things, but my mother was serious and more | | | | He did not worry about the experimental stages of my |
| uptight about things. Although my parents are very | | | | childhood as much as my mother did. They both felt |
| different in some of their parenting methods, they | | | | their own way for the same reason, out of love for |
| share some common principles as well. They both are | | | | me, and a desire to help me find a better way to |
| believers in moral and academic responsibility, respect, | | | | finding my own self. |
| and hard work. When their personalities lined up on | | | | However, my parents both agreed upon matters of |
| these matters, they behaved as if they shared one | | | | respectfulness and morals. They taught me to respect |
| common personality. | | | | a person even if that person was my enemy. My |
| My mother was always there to tuck me in at nights | | | | parents strongly agreed that everyone was someone |
| and care for me when I was ill, but my father was | | | | and no matter what the situation, respect and |
| always working and providing. I remember every single | | | | consideration for the each person involved was very |
| night that I went to bed my mom was there to say | | | | important. Likewise, they were adamant about morals |
| goodnight, but I don't recall my dad's presence unless I | | | | concerning family, religion and work. When they came |
| needed discipline for my behavior. When I became ill, | | | | together on these principals, the outcome was always |
| my mother never left my side; she would care for me | | | | the same: they stood their ground and things were |
| in this manner until I was completely well again. | | | | completed exactly as they told me, or strong discipline |
| However, my father would always work overtime or | | | | would come until I complied. If I tried to stay home from |
| some odd job to ensure the money was there for | | | | church, or slack in performing my chores or completing |
| anything that I might need or that my mother might | | | | my schoolwork the consequences were severe. They |
| need in caring for me. Each did what they did for me | | | | accepted when I made mistakes and often gave |
| out of love and devotion. However, my father did his | | | | credit to a heartfelt try. Although, not trying was very |
| part from afar, and mom was always the "hands on" | | | | unacceptable to both of them and just plain laziness |
| kind of mother. | | | | was not something they looked at as tolerable. |
| My mother wanted to protect me from the world and | | | | Whatever the difference between my mother and |
| real life situations for as long as she could, but my | | | | father may be, they sure have some very powerful |
| father wanted me to learn to survive and thrive in the | | | | similarities as well. Both are unique and differ in their |
| world around me. Mom felt it would bring me a happier | | | | own personality and beliefs, but both also hold a |
| childhood to protect me from the dangers of the real | | | | common ground on the deeper issue of having the |
| world outside our home. She believed that without her | | | | best intentions for in mind for me. Together they |
| protection that I would grow burned out on life in | | | | sought to prepare me for my transgression into |
| general and look at things as destiny rather than a | | | | adulthood and the security of standing on my own in a |
| possibility. She faced these issues too early in her life | | | | world that could be overwhelming and disillusioning to |
| and longed for her child to have a sense of safety | | | | someone. The similarities at the core of my mother |
| and security that she had lost so early in her life. Yet | | | | and father are more alike than different. Their love and |
| my father felt strongly that I should learn how to live in | | | | concern for my life, my future, my happiness and my |
| the real world while still having at least some protection | | | | over all well being was the reason behind their |
| from it so that I would be able to make a stand in it | | | | methods even if they were so different on the |
| alone. Both had their own beliefs about the subject, but | | | | surface. Parents may express the same things |
| both also had the same good intention for my future | | | | differently; however, the reasoning behind the method |
| and desired my life to be happy and successful. | | | | is usually the exact same one. This just proves to me |
| My father always made light of some things that were | | | | that its cover cannot judge a book and a closer look |
| quite upsetting to my mother. Like the fact that I liked | | | | at what is wrote on the pages may reveal something |
| to play sports and climb trees instead of playing with | | | | completely different from the illusion on the outside |
| dolls or dress up. My mother was quite a tomboy, as | | | | cover. |